| 摘要: | 本研究探討男同志伴侶經營「單一伴侶開放式關係」之實踐經驗，以瞭解男同志伴侶實踐開放式關係之發展歷程、衝突經驗，及如何影響男同志伴侶親密關係。本研究以質性取向之敘事探究法，進行對偶分析資料蒐集，採立意抽樣及滾雪球抽樣法，邀請五對正經歷「單一伴侶開放式關係」之男同志伴侶，年齡分佈於20～30歲，交往2～4年，並以伴侶共同訪談方式進行半結構式深度訪談。分析分法以「整體─內容」敘事分析法，並輔以「整體─形式」敘事分析法進行資料整理。研究結果如下：
一、男同志伴侶開放式關係之發展歷程：男同志伴侶進入開放式關係會先有一個契機，並進行協商，實踐開放式關係時可能經歷衝突，甚至重回封閉式關係，接著並再次開放，也可能進而進入多重伴侶關係，呈現多元螺旋性之發展。
二、男同志伴侶開放式關係實踐經驗之多元性：進入開放式關係契機、協議開放式關係規則與溝通形式、開放與封閉之間擺盪、尋找穩定或多重伴侶關係之可能性，皆呈現經營開放式關係之多元性。
三、男同志伴侶經營開放式關係之挑戰：包括開放式關係規則難達共識、違反開放式關係規則、嫉妒與共榮情緒不同調。
四、男同志伴侶經營開放式關係之益處：包括增加伴侶性愛樂趣及新鮮感、增廣伴侶關係可談論之話題、透過關係外的性暫時轉移伴侶關係衝突，以及透過與他人短暫的激情提醒伴侶關係間的熱情。
五、男同志伴侶開放式關係之權力議題：若曾發生外遇而未解決，可能呈現權力不對等的狀態進而影響開放式關係之經營。伴侶關係主動者會「賦權」給被動者，使經營開放式關係上更為平等。
六、男同志伴侶開放式關係之性別議題：同性別可能使男同志伴侶在經營開放式關係時逃避親密感，也可能因同性別而有機會創造更為平等的關係。
七、男同志伴侶開放式關係之未來想像：五對男同志伴侶皆對未來有不同想像，包括以且走且看模式經營、創造更多性愛樂趣方式、進入婚姻、多重伴侶關係，也可能選擇結束伴侶關係。
本研究結果顯示男同志伴侶開放式關係實踐經驗之多元性，提供經營開放式關係之男同志伴侶、實務工作者，以及未來相關研究之研究建議與本研究限制。
This study explores the experience of gay couples in “partnered nonmonogamy” to understand the development process, conflict experience, and how it influences intimacy among gay couples. This research is a qualitative research of narrative inquiry, and analysis of couple data. By purposive sampling and snowball sampling, this study invites five gay couples who are all in partnered nonmonogamy. Five couples’ age ranges from 20 to 30 years old and they have dated for 2 to 4 years. The researcher uses semi-structured in-depth interviews while conducting couple interviews. The analysis method is the "holistic-content" narrative analysis method, supplemented by the "holistic-form" narrative analysis method. The results are as follows.
1.The development process of gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy: gay couples have an opportunity to enter into partnered open relationships and negotiate. When couples enter into partnered open relationships, they may experience conflicts, even return to closed relationships, then enter again, and may enter polyamory, which shows the diversity of development process.
2.Diversity of experiences in partnered nonmonogamy among gay couples: entering partnered nonmonogamy opportunities, open relationship rules and forms of communication, swing between open and closed relationships to find the possibility of stability, and possibilities of entering polyamory present the diversity of experiences in partnered nonmonogamy.
3.Challenges of gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy: including open relationship rules which are difficult to reach consensus, violation of open relationship rules, and couples whose jealousy and compersion are not on the same page.
4.Benefits of gay couples operating a partnered nonmonogamy: including increased sexual pleasure and freshness, expanding topics that can be discussed in the relationship, temporary transfer of relationship conflicts through sex outside of relationships, and through the brief passion with others to remind the enthusiasm of partnered relationships.
5.Power issues of gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy: if one partner has an affair but does not resolve it, it may present an unequal power and affect the open relationship. If the partner's initiative "empowers" the passive, it will make a more equal open relationship.
6.Gender issues of gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy: the same sex may make gay couples escape intimacy when they operate open relationships, but there are also opportunities to create more equal relationships because of the same sex.
7.The future imagination of gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy: Five gay couples have different visions of the future, including just going with the flow, creating more fun ways of sex, entering marriages, entering polyamory, and choosing to end the relationship.
The study shows that gay couples practice the diversity of experiences in partnered nonmonogamy. Based on the result, this study provides gay couples in partnered nonmonogamy, counseling psychologists and future reseaches with its suggestions and restrictions. |
